Wow, what a week! Well actually, two weeks. A friend has recently been widowed and since she has no family living close enough to be of help, a couple of us have stepped up to help her deal with the issues resulting from her husband's death.
Her attorney friend is dealing with issues around the estate, her chronologically adult stepchildren and the utter chaos in the house. RS, her husband had a progressive dementia and began to hoard cats several years ago. Unfortunately, most of the 20 plus cats were feral even though they were in the house. Their waste (and the resulting smell) will need to be removed from the home to restore it to sanitary conditions.
An additional challenge to cleaning up the house is that both of them were hoarders. The house is littered with papers, furniture (she had a home before the marriage) and items that were in the collections that RS had amassed over the years. Add this to the general accumulation of stuff from his being in the house for more than 55 years.
In the midst of this, we have managed to get KS to consider moving to an assisted living facility. She will be living in more sanitary conditions, her meals will be provided and being around people will keep her from becoming socially isolated. We have been to two facilities so far and will look at at least one more before she makes a decision. The problem for KS is that she has mental health issues that make it very hard for her to make choices without second guessing herself. She also has trouble remembering what questions have been answered and what the answers were if she doesn't write it all down.
I will keep you posted as the saga unfolds.
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